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Jillian Pinder’s stepdaughter speaks of grief, anger, relief and a family changed forever

“My dad was sent to prison today.”

For Jillian Pinder’s stepdaughter, those words marked the beginning of another kind of grief— losing her stepmother and the father she thought she knew.

In a deeply personal social media post following her father’s remand to prison, she described being overwhelmed by emotions she was still struggling to understand.

“I’m sad. I’m angry. I’m hurt,” she wrote.

“And honestly, there is also a part of me that feels a sense of relief.”

It’s the complicated reality that can follow a tragedy when the people involved are not strangers, but family.

Jillian Pinder, a 56-year-old teacher at TG Glover Primary School, died on July 13, weeks after she was attacked and stabbed in the neck on June 4.

Her husband, George Pinder, has been charged in connection with her death, alongside another man. He faces murder, conspiracy to murder and abetment to murder charges.

For Jillian’s stepdaughter, however, the court proceedings are only one part of what she is now carrying.

“I’m grieving more than one thing,” she wrote. “I’m grieving my stepmother, whose life was taken. I’m grieving the family we were supposed to be.”

She said things she had heard her father say about his children and his wife had caused deep pain.

“Words can leave wounds that people cannot always see,” she wrote in a social media post.

But she also made a deliberate choice not to allow anger to consume her.

Instead, she said she wants to acknowledge her pain, protect her heart and give herself permission to feel whatever comes.

There is, she wrote, no single correct way to respond to a tragedy like this.

“I don’t have to choose between being sad and being relieved. I can mourn my stepmother while also mourning the parts of my own life that have been changed forever.”

Her words also turned toward the people she is determined to protect, her family, her daughter and, especially, her siblings.

“My whole heart goes out to my stepmother, to her loved ones, and to everyone whose life has been changed by this tragedy,” she wrote.

“Right now, I’m choosing peace.”

She said she is choosing to let the truth come to light while giving herself permission to heal.

She may never understand why things happened the way they did, she wrote, but she knows she deserves the space to grieve, to process it, and eventually find peace.

“I did not cause this. I cannot change the past. And I do not have to carry all of this alone.”

“I always think about Miss Pinder. She was so beautiful. She was such a sweet teacher.”

For those who knew Jillian Pinder, 56, they remember her laugh, jokes and kindness. The teacher who poured into her students, the aunt who called for advice, the mother whose children were at the centre of her life.

And, perhaps most strikingly, family remember her faith.

Pinder, a teacher at TG Glover Primary School, died on July 13, weeks after she was attacked and stabbed in the neck on June 4.

Her husband, George Pinder, and another man have since been charged in connection with her death. They face murder and conspiracy charges, with George Pinder also facing a charge of abetment to murder. The allegations are waiting to be proven in court.

But as the legal process begins, Jillian’s family is determined that the woman she was should not disappear behind the case.

Her niece, Janine Capron, remembered a woman whose relationship with her family was filled with laughter.

“Our calls were always some joke or story. She loved to laugh!” Capron wrote.

Jillian was often the first person to send birthday and anniversary messages. She showed up for family milestones and, when difficult conversations were necessary, she remained family.

“She was always the first message for birthdays or anniversaries. She showed up for every family event and milestone,” Capron wrote.

Then came the phone call that changed everything.

Capron recalled rushing to Nassau after learning Jillian had been attacked. When she entered her aunt’s ICU room, she broke down in tears.

But Jillian comforted her. “I am still here,” she told her.

Capron said Jillian recounted what had happened and repeatedly expressed that she simply wanted her life.

“He can have it all, I just want my life,” Capron recalled her saying.

And there was something Jillian reportedly told her attackers. “I forgive you.”

Her niece said those words have stayed with her.

“I haven’t gotten to that place yet,” she wrote.

For a family still struggling to understand the loss, forgiveness is not simple, neither is grief.

Jillian’s family has created the Justice for Jill Facebook page as they seek answers and support for her children.

“As we continue to remember and fight for Jill, we ask that you please keep her beautiful children lifted in prayer,” the family said.

Her niece Anna Capron wrote that the family trusted God even when they could not understand the delays.

“We may not be able to bring her back, but we can make sure she is never forgotten,” she wrote.

That may be the family’s greatest act of remembrance.